Ya Hmaarr November 4, 2009
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“Why are you angry?….Why are you so quick to judge?….I told you… I was speaking to the director and I had to put you on hold…I explained to you…I was busy…Now you call me an ass?!! ( hmaarr.)… Why am I an ass? Why do you use such language? That was wrong of you…”
The man was walking down the shopping aisle, speaking loudly into his mobile phone, spilling his secrets out to others without realizing how loud he was, or if he did, he did not care. How dare she call him an ass!?
I wanted to walk up to him and offer him sympathy. No one should be verbally humiliated like that, especially by the person one loves. The man sounded disgusted but resigned in the end as he hung up with a mild threat.
I wonder if they have made up by tonight and if he was really up to no good as he wandered around the hardware store this afternoon.
Insults such as these aren’t easy to take.. depends who is dishing it out too!
With all due respect to donkeys and asses (the animals), I do think it is an insult to be called one in anger. Successful relationships are based on mutual respect regardless of how cool one thinks it is to froth at the mouth with profanities.
I HATE it when people talk in their cell phones in public places, particularly in a loud voice. He deserves to be called an ass by those who have to listen to him.
I have to agree with you on that one PhantomMan. Although one can hear many spicy stories, and gain insight into other people’s private lives, it is still annoying in confined spaces.
Hehe, I can see you feel very strongly about that too
this reminds me of an incident in my life!
yeah i once had such an experience while talking to our company owner/boss………he called me an ASS becz my mobile was busy when he called. If i am an ASS, what other name could i call him?
…….after all being an expatriate and living in Kuwait, i just apologized and listened to him patiently.
life is strange here…..!!
How utterly rude!
I think I would serve a boss like that a cup of coffee full of a powerful laxative powder. He needs to release all that pent up stress.
I only use the word “Hmaaaar” when I really really like someone.. Never in an angry tone, i must add
I hope they made up too.
hehe that means the “meyaaanah” must be totally dropped and understood between you two. Kuwaitis have an interesting way of using insults/profanities (just as in any other culture I suppose) where they can express a wide range of emotions from anger to sensuality.
I have to confess that a heartfelt “hmaaar” goes a long way towards alleviating the stress of traffic jams and suicidal drivers who hog the road
Sometimes people get too worked up within their conversations, they are oblivious to their surroundings, saying things that are better left between them..
However, I have to agree..a heartfelt “hmaar” does wonders sometimes!
….with a heavy rolling of the “rrrrrr” too lol
I wonder, do animals swear and cast insults too in their own way? hahaha
Blow of some steam sometimes, it is refreshing.
yes Fons, sometimes there is a right time and place for that powerful outburst
First I wanna say good to have you back.
It is disturbing really to see 2 people who are suppoused to bring children up and teach them respect are lacking respect and decency.
besides..maybe his mother called him 7maar? it is still an insult but easy to swallow
hahaha maybe his mother called him a 7maar but I think his insulted and hurt reaction could only mean that it was a suspicious woman (like a wife or a girlfriend) who didn’t like being put suddenly on hold.
Lol who knows the ways of men
thanks for the kind words Traveleer
welcome back girl, you were missed chica..
I regret to say that this sameee exact circumstance just happened with my colleague newly wed 3 months ago, and believe it or not, couple of days ago, he filed for divorce..
he never told me anything until everything was over, but I was really shocked when I heard him saying he divorced his wife because while they had an argument she said some nasty things to him. I don’t know, but I think getting a divorce because of some bad words is way out of hand, I asked him if there is anything else involved, he said no, she doesn’t respect me, so F her.. let her go back to her father’s house..
oh well.. :S
Thanks TheDon
Most likely it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
One thing anyone in a relationship should realize is that once words are spoken, no apologies or anything else can take them back and even if your partner forgives you, she or he will not forget. Every nasty word or negative comment is another chip in the wall of your relationship.
While I don’t think one should divorce as a result of an argument, sometimes something great is lost when your partner disrespects you and says hurtful things and the relationship may never be the same again.
Oh, it’s made me happy and is so lovely to see you! :***
I will never, cannot ever use the word “7mar” or “7mara” on anyone either male or female. The reason for this, is that I was once myself called that repeatedly by someone who was important to me at the time, who kept claiming they didn’t mean it when they used it. But they really did.
No one had better dare call me that to my face again. I will use the proverbial straw to break THEIR back LOL ;p
I truly hate using names or name calling and try to never ever do so when I am angry. It’s very destructive and damaging both to the callee and caller. It’s a chaotic way of expressing or venting ‘ones anger. And when a word or two does escape my lips which does happen on occasion (i.e. driving on Kuwaiti streets), I feel awful for the rest of the day…
MsBaker
You are a rare jewel and lucky are those who are blessed to be in your company
It is such a pleasure to see you here again on the blog…I had been thinking of you often.
I think one could make a lot of money out of anger management courses these days
Oi Oi! I thought you’d be gone for a year or so! I didn’t expect you to be back so soon!
As for the subject, if your spouse insults you with severe words, that spouse has no love nor respect for you. The whole relationship is pointless, in my opinion.
Some men tolerate it. I don’t understand why. If there are kids involved, they shouldn’t exposed to such vulgarity nor attitude, so divorce IS a solution. A solution that should never be taken lightly.
I didn’t expect to be back so soon either lol
I suppose I am temperamental in that way.
I wonder:
Do more women tolerate verbal abuse from their spouses than visce versa?
And if divorce is a solution as you say, isn’t it easier for men who are verbally abused by their spouses to leave the marriage than for women in the same situation?
It would seem so to me.
You’re right. Women do tolerate it more, though I never understood why.
Divorce is an ugly solution, but remains a solution.