Monthly Archives: August 2009

All’s Well that Ends Well

All’s Well that Ends Well

Wishing all readers, casual and constant, peace and guidance

Blessings to all wayfarers who stumble upon this place. Come in for a cup of tea or whatever is on the table at the moment.

Thank you to all who have delighted me with their company upon my sojourn in the Boudoir the past few years.

I am embarking on an introspective journey that will necessitate a prolonged absence.

Who knows what dangers lurk along the way or what forks in the road I may lose myself upon.

The path may only involve a circuitous return to my original point of departure.

Or the path may lead me to broader enlightenment .

I believe

I believe

On a more positive note, I would like to share the lyrics to a lovely song from the Billy Elliot  musical I attended recently entitled I Believe:

If I believe that I could do anything,
Could I spread my wings and say goodbye
So many people told me I couldn’t win
But look at me now
Here I am in heaven’s sky
And sometimes I say a prayer
Wishing that you could be here with me

Cos I believe

I believe in love, it’s the best of everything
I believe in hope and the changes it can bring
If you believe then nothing can stand in your way
Just say, I believe

If hope’s the house I wanna be living in
Baby, I’ve got one foot in the door
Yes I do
All the years of waiting for your approval dear
Well I realised I don’t need it anymore

‘Cause I’m stronger everyday,
Now I’m strong enough to say, I believe

I believe in love, it’s the best of everything
I believe in hope and the changes it can bring
If you believe then nothing can stand in your way
I believe

It’s a fact of life that we’re all in the game
But it’s still your call
But we all play it
Sometimes we win, sometimes we fall
But that’s no reason just to give it up, cause after all
If you can’t choose what to be
You can choose what to dream
And I believe

I believe in love, it’s the best of everything
I believe in hope and the changes it can bring
If you believe then nothing can stand in your way
Just say, oh, I believe

Jahra wedding disaster

Jahra wedding disaster

There has been lots of discussion and speculation about the horrific tragedy in Kuwait a few days ago in which scores of women and children died and suffered from very serious burns. (Link)

Today, there are new developments to the story. The daily Kuwaiti Alqabas  newspaper published the detailed confession of the woman responsible for setting fire to the tent.

She is referred to only by initials as is the custom in Kuwaiti newspapers.

N is 23 years old and the first wife.

Below is the rough translation of the interrogation published in Alqabas:

How did you plan the criminal act?

I did not plan it in advance. All that was on my mind was how to take revenge on my husband and his sisters. My sisters-in-law were responsible for my misery and the discord between my husband and I. I wanted to ruin the wedding party in any way I could.

What did you decide after that?

I knew the wedding was going to be held in a house and not in a special occasions ballroom. I knew it was going to be held in a tent outside the house so that is how I got the idea to burn the tent, after thinking of many scenarios. I finally decided to go to the wedding party location and execute my plan.

How did you execute your plan and with whose help?

No one helped me. I called a taxi who took me to Farwaniya and from there I took another taxi to Jahra.
What is the name of the taxi company you called and why did you go to Farwaniya first?

I called (…) taxi company but I only had 5 KD on me and a call taxi fare is 5 KD from Al-Rihab to Al-Jahra. I told him to take me to Farwaniya for a dinar and a half and from there I took a roaming taxi [cheaper]  to my husband’s house where the wedding was taking place and it was around 7:30.

What happend after that and when did you get to the wedding party tent?
As soon as I arrived in Farwaniya I took another taxi and asked him to go to the gas station. There I asked the attendant to fill a mineral bottle of gasoline for me. I had a packet of matches in my handbag that I had brought with me from home and I arrived at the wedding around 8:30.

How did you execute the crime?

The whole way from Farwaniya to Jahra, all I could think about was how to revenge on my sisters in law and ruining the wedding party and when I arrived I asked the taxi driver to wait on the other street for me and I got out of the car and headed towards the tent. There, I began to pour gasoline on the edges of the tent and lit the fire and ran off in the same taxi.

How did you light the fire?

With a packet of matches. I struck the first matchstick which did not light but the second one did and I did not look back at the tent once it caught fire however I heard the guests screaming and thought that I was successful in ruining the party and returned home.

Did you go back home immediately?

No. I went to the police station and asked them to register a case against my husband and his sisters and I accused them of calling me and threatening me. But the police didn’t do anything and I left the station and went home..

How did you know that the fire caused a catastrophe?

By television and my brothers called me to ask if I was behind the fire and I told them I had not left the house at all and had done nothing.

What is the cause of the discord between you and your husband?

My husband is wishy washy and my discord was with his sisters; they are the ones who kicked me out of the house and decided to marry him off again thus ruining my life and the life of my child. And for that I decided to take revenge.

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end.

Note: Immediately since the accident,  a blood drive and call for people to donate blood to the fire victims has been announced. The bride got away but lost her mother and sister- in law.

Just Do It Later

Just Do It Later

The following short film was made to shock teenagers into thinking twice before texting whilst driving.

I think that this kind of awareness campaign should be also directed to all adults considering the number of drivers in Kuwait that think they are invincible.It’s downright frightening because once something like this happens, there is just no turning back.

Reaction time slows by 35% while writing or reading texts when driving. And almost 50% of UK teenagers between 18-24 texted while driving. (Link to BBC article)

Wishing you all safe driving.

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Ya Wad Ya T’eel

Ya Wad Ya T’eel

Perusing the Kuwaiti newspapers, I came across an amusing little bit in the crime section.

An Egyptian man living in Kuwait went to the airport to meet his new bride who was arriving from Egypt.

Instead of just receiving her and then partying later on, he decided to take a troupe of friends with their musical instruments (unspecified in the newspaper but I imagine they were drum like ) to give the bride a proper homecoming (zaffa) at the airport arrivals hall.

However, it seems he got a literal unhappy “zaffa” when the authorities questioned him about his intentions and what he and his friends were going to do with all those instruments.

He was told it was not allowed to do that but it appears he insisted on expressing his joy at her arrival and consequently was arrested and had a case against him in the Jleeb police station. (link) (link)

What’s the harm in spreading a little joy and happiness? What if the whole arrivals hall turned into a mass celebration for the newlyweds and one could hear ululations all around?

The clip below has nothing to do with the man above. In fact, the late Souad Houssni is singing about a man who is the complete opposite of our merry Egyptian groom.

- Souad HOUSSNI – Ya Wad Ya T’eel

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (VI)

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (VI)

Every journey must end.

Or be continued  after the end of a phase.

The second leg of my journey is on a train with  no reserved seats. I place luggage on the rack and sit in adjacent seats thankful for a smooth journey thus far.

The train stops in Leeds.

Throngs of people mill onto the train in  a steady stream. On this hot day some are wearing football scarves. Others wear football shirts over their tops. The smell of bodies and sweat rises from the mostly male passengers.

Easy camaraderie between men. The brotherhood is fascinating to watch. They discuss the game.

Then just as the train conductor blows into his whistle, a family of three charge onto the coach, clutching brown bags of McDonald’s. The stench of  meat and onions  is almost nauseating in the close heat of the car and the windows barely even open. To my growing disgust, they find no place to sit and hoist their bodies onto the wide luggage rack by my belongings.

The girl unwraps her Big Mac and proceeeds to dig in. I cast cursory glances at her concerned about the pieces of onions and hamburger sauce dripping onto my luggage. To make matters worse, I worry when I see the young man not only leaning against my other bag  but also wrapping his arm around it, in a possessive manner and I think his sweaty armpits might stain it.

I struggle to refrain from offering them tissues. The young man is constantly using his t-shirt sleeve to wipe his nose. The girl licks her fingers. It is a nightmare and I wonder if I will every enjoy McDonald;s again after that onslaught.

I keep my cool and soon they find seats and run off, leaving their trash near my bags.

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (V)

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (V)

The East European mother of two leaves the first class coach.

The train conductor ushers in a Canadian family to sit in the seats, four and two on either side. Their children are quiet teenagers occupied with a variety of gadgets from iPods to laptops. The father is a chunky man with ruddy complexion. He sports a goatee and his delightfully rounded belly sits emphatically upon the top of his shorts. He wears a tshirt with something touristy on it.

Look! he alerts the kids: A church.

He is curious about the scenery. I can’t tell about his wife whose back is to me.

Soon we are passing strange looking structures that I believe are silos. He is curious and as a rail employee passes, he asks the young man about them. A discussion ensues in which the Canadian explains the reason for the family trip.  His father had immigrated from Britain to Canada and settled there. Now he has brought his family to see where their ancestors came from.

Another North American man traveling alone, perked up and leaned over to take a look at the Canadian family. Before him on the table, he had a ripe yellow banana. He was engrossed in reading a magazine, only interrupting his reading to order some wine and then to call his lodgings at his destination where he was confirming his arrival later that evening. He seems very organized. Even down to his sturdy walking shoes.

I look out the train window at the endless green expanses flying by and think how easy it is to misconstrue. If I had not heard the Canadian man say they were from Canada, I would have continued to think that they were American for that is the first impression that I got.

One must not misconstrue by judging too hastily.

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (III)

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (III)

The voices of young children suddenly erupt on our uncrowded coach. One child wails repeatedly.

The children are severely censured in high pitched loud admonishments.

I lean over to see who is sitting there.

She’s pretty.

Young. Slim. Dark short hair and creamy skin. Eastern European.

With two young children: Mama! Mama!

The incessant wails drive the woman to strike out with some vigorous flailing of her arm in the direction of one child, scolding in a voice that says: I’m fed up.

Mama! Mama!  A little voice pleads.

The bespecaled railway conductor with the sandy coloured hair asks to see the mother’s ticket.

He checks it and says:

If you want to sit here, you can upgrade by paying £20. Otherwise, please move back to the standard class coach.

She protests: My luggage.

He reassures her: It will be alright here.

She makes the necessary motions to leave the first class coach but when he is gone, she returns to the same seat with children in tow.

But this is England. The train conductor returns and repeats in a stricter tone: I’m sorry. I  am going to have to ask you to move now.

Behind him are a large family waiting to occupy the seats.

The woman takes her children and sits in the area between coaches, directly in front of the tiny toilet where her son’s toy car slides in as someone exits the cubicle.

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (II)

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (II)

At Pudsey, the train chugs along and stops briefly.

It is just a platform and almost empty.

Butterflies in dark and buttercream hues dance daintily along the Buddleia bushes that line the rail tracks, gracing the cone-shaped lavender flowers with delicate swoops in the summer air.

My face against the sealed train window, I follow the butterflies with wondering eyes. I seek signs, perhaps an augur of happier times ahead.

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (I)

Tableaux Vivants: Transient Moments (I)

I forget the name of the train station. I should have noted it down. But it is of no real consequence.

The picture is formed.

As our train stopped, I looked out my window silently reading the transient scene before me.

An older man with a full head of grey hair sits on a bench with a black canvas travel case on his right side.

Against his face, he holds a grey teddy bear.

Through the stationary train window , I stare at the man, wondering if he is alright. He seems to be talking to his teddy bear.

Very shortly, he bends over his black canvas case and stuffs the teddy bear into it.

He sits back, his suit jacket shows an array of buttons that may be from byegone military days.

Our train departs.

I crave it

I crave it

Craving

green pesto

with basil

and

extra virgin

olive oil

with some

crusty bread

No,

this is not a poem.

But I’m thinking

If I write it down,

the desire might just

stick onto my blog post

like that silly putty,

and I can leave the craving

here,

and go off to enjoy

food

that is less tempting,

less carnal,

and more

practical.

==

S.W.A.L.K.

S.W.A.L.K.

Interesting how one thing leads top another.

The news that Mark Lester may be the biological father of the late Michael Jackson’s daughter Paris, led me to refresh my memory of the young actor in Oliver the movie.

I ended up stumbling on an interesting film he acted in with Jack Wild called  Melody (aka S.W.A.L.K.) about pre-teen love in London during the 1970′s. Yes, fascinating how life was for young people before Internet and other modern entertainment gadgets.

Part 1/11

I had never heard of the film but it seems it was quite a nostalgic one for those who did watch it. The film is not yet on DVD and I noticed the  collectivle VHS version was on Amazon for about £130.

Extra credit: What does S.W.A.L.K. stand for?

Terminal 5

Terminal 5

Arriving at Heathrow Airport’s new Terminal 5, is like entering a futuristic time capsule of sorts.  We make our way down from the top of the terminal down 3 flights of never-ending escalators. Around us, everything is orb shaped and circular and very spacious.

Before going to customs, we decide to use the loo.  We normally do this because the queue is so long and tedious that one must feel comfortable before joining it.

In the bathroom, a Chinese cleaning lady is sweeping and looks up cheerfully to greet another airport employee who comes out of the stall and washes her hands at the sink.

The Chinese attendant asks the black woman:  “How are you doing?”

And she replies she is tired already today of “going up and down” constantly.

The young Chinese woman laughs in agreement and says: “No need for a diet or exercise. Our work is exercise enough.”

Outside the restrooms, we proceed to join the line. There are signs that say: EU nationals and Others.

Well, we are Others.

In our queue there are many compatriots from the same flight we arrived on from Kuwait. There are also some other foreign nationals that have come on other flights. But the waiting time is noticeably less than in previous years despite the summer season. I figure it is not the threat of Swine Flu that is responsible for this but the rather large facilities of Terminal 5 that have made the crowds of visitors seem so much more minuscule.

In line, a blond American woman, standing out against all the other darker skinned people around her, asks the middle-aged airport employee of Asian descent: “Where do I go? I am American.”

The British customs employee of Asian descent replies: “Here. That queue is for those with passports from the European Union. Here, all others.”

The American woman looks momentarily disappointed to be waiting with Others while the other EU queue was moving at a noticeably faster rate.

It is all rather orderly really. We wait patiently and our turn comes eventually.

In our line of mixed heritages, there stood one young Kuwaiti man, a single traveler, who was dressed in a crisp white dishdasha and a starched, bright white headpiece (qutra) and black igaal. He face was clean shaven except for a small mustache. He was tall and of a slim build and wore soft white sandals.

Since he was the only traditionally dressed man in the queue, all eyes were on him when he went up to the customs officer’s desk. He spent an average amount of time answering questions. However, very noticeably behind the desk, were two senior looking customs officers waiting. As soon as the young Kuwaiti man went through, one of the men went directly to the desk and picked up his landing card with his details. He took it with him and proceeded to follow the man in the white dishdasha.

Behind us, some young Kuwaiti men dressed in Bermudas and Polo shirts were making sarcastic comments about the Kuwaiti man in the dishdasha, saying that he must be deranged to enter the UK in his full traditional attire. They were wondering if he was mentally “all there” and imagining the questions that were going to be hurled at him now.

I couldn’t help but feel worried about the young man and concerned at the obvious behaviour of the customs employees at singling him out because of his clothes. Personally if I were a man, I would not have opted to wear a dishdasha in a non-Arab country. Most young Kuwaitis going to other Arab countries wear Western style clothing when they travel. Why stand out like a sore thumb? However, in the end one must respect a person’s choice of apparel especially when it does not look threatening (as safety pins in noses or other bodily parts, or chains and metal studded accessories).

When it comes our turn and the customs officer asks why we have come to Britiain, I want to explain in a very lengthy fashion, that the heat in Kuwait is hellishly hot, that most days this summer have been depressingly dusty, that our days have turned into nights to avoid the harsh climate, that our brains have been warped from the constant going in and out from extreme heat to extreme cold air-conditioned interiors. We just want to share your weather, please, for a short while, I want to say.

But of course I restrain myself, and resist the temptation to sound pitiful or jokey and say: We are just visiting for a short while. For leisure.

When we finally make it out of customs, however, we heave a sigh as the tension ebbed and our friendly London cabbie drives us to our destination. It feels is good to be here and the rain lifts the spirits.

You’re so Obama

You’re so Obama

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UCLA professor of linguistics Pamela Munro has put together with her students the newest edition of  “U.C.L.A. Slang 6″ with more than a 1,000 entries of popular slang words and phrases in current use.

Referring to slang, Munro says:

“Slang seems to originate on the West Coast and move east because of Hollywood and the recording industry,” said Munro, a noted authority on dictionary creation. “So ‘U.C.L.A. Slang’ tends to be a harbinger of slang that already is — or soon will be — spoken across the country.” Source
So Obama is used as an adjective meaning “cool or rad”.
Bromance is an expression of brotherly platonic love.
And recently in London I heard: “brothers from another mother” (from a Kuwaiti) which is also mentioned in the UCLA article: Schwa! Popular slang marks 20th anniversary at UCLA