Do you enjoy going to weddings? July 4, 2009
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Do I enjoy going to wedding parties? Sometimes.
My enjoyment depends on several factors I suppose. The main factor is whether or not I am in the mood. If I am in the mood, this is enhanced by a luxurious trip to the salon where I am pampered, primped, and prepared for the event. Most women tend to do this.
If one is married, sometimes the husband is puzzled and asks if his wife intends to outdo the bride. But then the same husband awaits the end of the party in anticipation to feast upon his dolled up wife (but mostly she is not in the mood after being squeezed into an evening gown, sometimes a corset, and having feasted on the wedding dinner comes home with a bloated belly and swollen feet from prancing about the dance floor in high heels for the duration of the evening.)
Sometimes at weddings the music is great. There are special bands or artists that highlight the evening. The entertainment in itself is something to look forward to.
But what if the wedding music is so-so and you have a huge ballroom with tiered seating on either side – the bride’s side, and the groom’s side. Imagine each side cheering when their celebrated loved one turns up (or booing when the other side shows up) No, of course that doesn’t happen but of course weddings are notorious occasions for women to turn into vicious creatures where no detail is left without scrutiny and nothing is left being subject to criticism and appraisal. That’s just the way it is.
Rare are the occasions one attends when there is real joy in a wedding celebration; where everyone is genuinely happy for the bride and groom and their families; where no one sits back and compares, or takes notes, or where no one evaluates the party and whether it measures up to “the standard”.
I have been to lavish wedding functions where no expense was spared but the relationship fell apart within months. I once went to a wedding where two sisters were getting married, and the sight of the two handsome men with their lovely brides caused me to break down and sob as I remembered a young relative that had recently passed on. They both divorced some years down the line. The worst wedding party I attended was when the bride came and the groom never showed up due to some family feud. She didn’t care though. She danced the night away. And less than a year later she was divorced.
There are legendary wedding parties, where the best of everything is provided, but will their marriage be the stuff of legends?
Here is a couple that celebrated 70 years of marriage recently – in a relationship that was successful despite the mother of the bride who forecast it would not work and did not speak to her daughter for 2 years.
I suppose what I am really getting at is that most of our weddings these days are done for pomp and show and do not really involve the essential happy side of a marital relationship.
The last paragraph is exactly what I think… I always think weddings are now for show (although i haven’t been to wedding since the 90s so I supposed weddings these days would shock me if I attend one lol!).. I had my wedding at home and I think wedding at home are cosy and cute.. just family and close relatives.. I remember someone commented on something like why’d you buy a dress since not many people are gonna see it lol I was like I am NOT wearing a dress for people! LOL
weddings should be a happy time but mostly it is stressful for all involved
i enjoy the food at weddings;p
it can be tasty
I think weddings are for brides, and families should let brides have the wedding of their choice. Unfortunately, many families take over, especially the bride’s mother. I also think all bride and groom families should be required to sit together so the families can get to be friends. Everyone should have fun. It is a celebration!
I suppose Mother knows best
Yeah, most people just take it way too seriously. It’s a night of celebration. We should keep it that way.
I like the way there is always at least one dancer at every wedding almost who puts on a wonderful show of dancing .
what’s the point in going?
I suppose social obligations
social obligations are a waste of time
It pays back sometime if you want to belong to the pack
i don’t want to belong to the pack
you are free
free to do as we tell you
I think sometimes the marriage can’t live up to the wedding? Everyone focuses on the fairytale wedding and not the life afterwards.
maybe things just fizzle out or were never ignited in the first place in the case of some matches
well… you know I always wanted my wedding to be in the morning.. mathalan.. I just feel it is fun!, and it gives less time for people to prepare, thus preparations might be less.. o not exaggurated/
another thing, I think the most important thing is the pit where people dance.. bas.. for the beauty of a wedding nd the pleasure to people attending a wedding is the songs/ the ground
and somehow… I feel that a wedding is only a ceremony that it is not really related to the two people’s relationship, mo?
it is something like the way you pray, and the way you feel to god mathalan?
morning wedding is an interesting concept….
I enjoy weddings so much that I do it for three times
Haha Fons once is enough
I’m free for the fourth time… anyone out there ?
hehe Fons You seem to enjoy bumpy rides
Freak Out !
Bump Inn !
That’s my advice !
hahaaha wise wise….
I have to say that I am happily a guy! Its soo much easier, walk in and say hello and walk out! lol
Guys have it easy during their wedding parties but they sure enjoy putting on a show during zaffat el m3res and they dance like there is no tomorrow lol
Our weddings are so different – mixed – and for us, such occasions of joy as the family gathers from all corners of the earth, mostly to laugh. We all take photos and movies, and for the months to come share them.
Weddings should be about loved ones gathering to celebrate the beginning of a couple’s happy new life together
Yes, I do Princess but not if it’s my own.
Hehe confirmed bachelor
Strange… it says 30 comments but I caunt 11 ,
do I missomething ?
withiz I count 12 ? 31 ?
Do I miss something ?
Don’t know Fons maybe it is counting the replies to comments?
How are you?
I feel fine my dear, real fine.
Coming out from a real good depression.definitive now.
my Gosh… nothing against a good depression, it wil fever out the bad thoughts and other creeps. As long I choose it myself.
I think loneliness is one of the most true and valuable emotions.
This time it was a complex kind of an accident- wedding/divorce related-
Far as I can see it will take half a year for clean the mess total an then …
Well my dear it never will be better then today, singing my time and do not read the morning paper any longer.
I quit my paying subscription, liberate myself from this local suckers news and the world-wide thiefs and killers.
I start my days with some pages from the Diamond Sutra, the collected poems from Simon Vinkenoog or some pages from Zhuang Zi, the classic book from Tao translated by Kristofer Schipper.
Only a few pages from one of the three, and I feel very, very fine by this my Dear !
Maybe I wil read the paper again after half a year. Who knows? Not me.
and … How are you ?
my lovely Ms. Left ?
It’s a beautiful day Fons
How are you today?
Forget about the bad news in papers. We need more good news.
How I am today ?
Well … I am in contact,
Your funnyfonzie.
Jewaira , (poeticize my life)
Yeah ..Yeah nice weather, gonna be a one way conversation .. forget about everything .. Except ..
HOW ARE YOU !?
AAAaaaah Jewaira .. feel already the first Autumn breath, so nice and gentle, you know it is my favorite
time of year. ( I send you some photographs.-promise-)Have you ever read anything from Marina Tsvetajeva ? so beautiful, tragic. so full of life ! so longing ! Well how am I ? Still not a vegetarian. You ?
How are you on your beautiful day ?
I am realy on a very fine wave everything change step by step it was in 1978 that I realize for the first time that when I have the possibility for take/grab a kind of complete luck I have to do it, it seem to happen
now . So my dear, How are you ?
Fons (like rain sunshine and wind)
It’s only July. What autumn’s breath not here till end of August!
I shall look forward to the photos of autumn Fons
Thank you for mentioning Marina Tsvetajeva. Very interesting to read about her life.
No am not a vegetarian. Yet.