Lost & Found June 2, 2008
Posted by jewaira in Dear Jewaira, Life, Relationships, Stories.trackback
Over the years I’ve been blogging, I’ve had some pretty interesting Dear Jewaira posts and mostly those messages have come from readers abroad. Local readers also send in their problems or topics but ask for me to carefully edit information or simply to keep it private.
Of course the idea behind Dear Jewaira is to have the input of other readers on a subject or an issue of concern.
Sometimes there are private problems that I wish I could share for the benefit of others but I always respect the reader’s wishes when they write.
One of the best parts of Dear Jewaira posts is when sometime later I receive a message from the person who gives me an update on the situation at hand and it is almost always good news. The person has moved on and their situation has improved.
One of these situations is the Dear Jewaira post from last June : Missing Love. Recently, I received a note from the woman who wrote the post and she is doing very well I am happy to report. Her problem was that the guy she had a very strong relationship just disappeared into thin air and she was worried about him. It is very difficult for anyone in a committed relationship when the partner disappears without a reason and no explanation. She imagined all sorts of things and had no closure until (and thanks to the wonders of the Internet) she finally did get word about him from someone close who told her that he was well (not dead or in Guantanamo) and that he was not married either but simply getting on with his life, having totally forgotten about the person whom he had made 1001 promises to. She is now happily in a relationship with another man. I guess it takes a new love to replace the heartbreak of the old.
Eat your heart out Dr. Foziyah
I’ve already assigned you my future therapist despite majoring in Psychology myself. Kudos to her and to her lover, and good job on comforting her with your words and advice. I’d love to create a positive and significant change to a person’s life.
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Angelo
Public Dear Jewaira posts aim to gather advice and support from readers for persons concerned so it is really a group effort and thanks to readers who share their views and opinions.
As for yourself, you are already very positive and quite sensitive to many issues in your own blog. Who knows? Dear Angelo
Jewaira
Typical Kuwaiti behaviour.. what a coward.
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It’s not unusual for men or women to suddenly leave a relationship for whatever reason. It’s not typically Kuwaiti.
To anyone reading this, if you have done the disappearing act in a relationship or think it is ok, think again. It causes your partner alot of undue stress and emotional upheaval especially the not knowing factor. Everyone needs closure no matter how hard it is to break up.
Jewaira
Karma is a powerful thing. Il-denya dawara.
What we do to others whether good or bad always comes back to us. Always.
So glad she found happiness and is in a much better place.
Thanks for telling us how positively the story ended Jewaira
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True, MsBaker.
And it’s so much easier in the long run to be open and frank about affairs of the heart.
Jewaira
i find it very strange when two adult are in a relationship, and suddenly one party disappear. What kind of a relationship was that?
Surely child’s play.
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Child’s play indeed.
What’s wrong with telling the truth no matter how much it hurts you or the other person? If anything, it gives you integrity and strength to sit down and talk about it rather than just leaving without a word or warning.
Jewaira
As a matter of fact, It enables fundamental threats: Violation of Integrity and Availability.